Blame
Excerpt on Projection
I remember a client, a daughter of another client, who came to me and said her relationship was in shambles, her boyfriend had all these issues, her career was at a dead end, and she was looking for a fix. “Life is so screwed up!” I asked her what was the common denominator in all these situations? “Grrrrr, alright, it’s me,” she replied. We did some regression work that she said had a profound impact on her. She changed and like magic, so did her life. She is now happily married to her formerly “screwed-up” boyfriend, has a great career and a baby. Somehow the boyfriend became fixed too, magically.
“It takes two to tango,” but it only takes one to change the “dance” both are in. Here is where the majority of issues arise. The course of action chosen, the affect created, is from a defensiveness based in blame, not love. This IS the way it is in the world, unfortunately. When you blame others you project your feelings and the responsibility of changing your life on others. This has a major side affect; it places you in the role of victim and allows you to think you’re powerless to affect your life. It also allows you to deny responsibility for your actions. “It’s not me, it’s them, and they’re at fault!” This type of thinking guarantees status quo, nothing will change. In fact it will get worse, like an dirty untreated boil.
Today is a good day to change this dynamic, don’t you think? The world depends upon it. You are the difference. There are no easy ways, or potions. Take the long road, up the mountain; don’t tame the bear, making him less viral, impotent. Love him and stand firm in your love. He will roar, but you are bigger than that, he will pound his chest, so. He will test your truth in his masculine way. Do not falter, you are stronger.