Boundaries
Anger is not wrong; it is an important emotion for both genders. It declares something to be unacceptable in a strong way, and it creates or reinforces one’s boundaries. Boundaries are important, and women often don’t have well-set boundaries, especially where needed. Or they may go to the opposite extreme and use rigid dictates they follow to replace their appropriate individual boundaries. Like the so-called “book of rules.” Book of guidelines would be a far better concept.
Boundaries represent your clear expression of your true self to others. Lack of boundaries, or too rigid or too harsh boundaries, is a reflection of an inner emotional makeup that includes confusion about self and poor self-esteem.
Positive boundaries do not harm or degrade others; they clearly state limits, without attacking or degrading those who approach our limits. They are important defining characteristics of desire in a healthy relationship.
Integrity, keeping our word, is a key factor in creating positive boundaries and is the critical factor of self-esteem. We know when we have been dishonest; yet, we suffer from self-imposed blindness to our lack of integrity, as we have repressed into our shadows our disingenuous actions. This does its self-destructive work in the shadows, damaging our self-esteem. Then, we wonder why we may never feel quite good enough. Always hold to your word – or loose your self-esteem!