Feminine Courage
Don’t rock the boat. Don’t create waves. Nice girls don’t get angry. Or at least direct displays of anger are not permissible. The conventional wisdom is to go along with things, seek the easy way, the path of least resistance. There is some truth and wisdom in this, but not in all situations.
Women have been portrayed, no, make that conditioned, to believe they are weak, and they have also agreed to accept this view of themselves. The fact that women are smaller in size and physically less strong then men is used by men to repress women. This is undeniable. But that doesn’t make them less powerful as human beings. And physical power does not create leaders, nor does it mean one is weaker than larger people. Look at our leaders, both governmental and corporate. They are not the strongest physically, yet they wield enormous power. It is simply a patriarchal lie that says women are less than men, but a powerful one that has been shoved down women and men’s throats.
There are so many restrictions placed on how a woman should look and act that what she often displays is not herself, but an act. It’s her illusion of how she believes she should look. Her expressions of anger (the only emotion she is not fully allowed) usually come out as twisted and underhanded. The Goddesses of Wisdom have lost themselves, just as the Gods of Love have, by their conditioning. Men lose the ability to accept and appreciate women’s wisdom because they don’t see it; they only see chaotic expressions of emotions and other illusions women present. They see only what is expressed, not what’s underneath.
This is identical to women not see the loving nature of men; it’s hidden behind years of macho conditioning and prohibitions against feeling. Men have their macho illusions too. Neither allows for the full expression of being and this leaves all hungry, unfulfilled, confused and frustrated.
These conditioned illusions prevent both sexes from trusting, connecting, and feeling safe with each other. These roles do not bode well for relationships, life, or the all-important “bringing of spirit into matter,” do they?
For women this leads to a life of busy work, pretending, dress-up with no place to go. She is lost, but doesn’t even recognize the forest she’s lost in. There are no trails of breadcrumbs to follow. What is she to do?
When a woman has strayed too far from her inner essence, her heart-centered core, she slowly loses the ability to move forward into the unknown of life. Her vitality is sapped. Her feminine limitlessness becomes limited, stale, tired, repetitive, and she finds herself starving. None other than herself denies her sustenance. Her vital nature becomes concretized in routine, and she acts contemptuous, and uncompromising on the one hand, or dried-up, victimized, used and abused on the other. She often will shift between the two at the snap of a finger.
There is only one way, one solution, one healing possible for the predicament women are trapped in. “Healer heal thyself.” And stop blaming everyone else, especially men. We must realize that the world is trapped in the same place, the same governing illusions that teach insanity.
The only possibility to fix the world is to fix us first. To do this we must first take the journey to find all the parts of self that we have disconnected from. This is doing the necessary inner work, the balancing, combining, and evolving of our belief systems. It requires eyes wide open not only to the outer illusions, but also most importantly, the inner ones. This includes forgiving self and others along the way. During the process it will be necessary to incorporate our parts and then recreate ourselves. Some call this being reborn. And all along the way there will be fabulous opportunities to forgive.